1.) What is your name?
“J.P.” John Patrick Davit IV
2) How many kids do you have?
I have one child, “Jack” John Patrick Davit V, who is currently 2 months old.
3) In general, how do you feel about breastfeeding?
For my wife and I, breast feeding is just what we do as responsible parents who want to give our child the best chance that he could possibly have. We felt that breastfeeding would add to increased health even past the colostrum stage.
4) Did you have any preconceived notions about breastfeeding?
We didn’t know what to expect at all. Personally, I knew it would be harder for my wife than myself. But what I did not think about was how helpless I would feel upon realizing that my wife has to do all the work.
5) Did your parents breastfeed you?
My parents bottle fed us (they had four children including myself) because according to my mother that’s “just what people did,” at the time.
6) From your perspective, what are the difficulties surrounding breastfeeding?
The biggest difficulty is the factor of time, and the problem is twofold. Our son Jack is constantly dependent on just my wife Brigette. It is tough for her to get a break as he is a ravenous feeder who screams uncontrollably when he is hungry and many times my wife does not have enough breast milk to fill him. He cries and she feels awful that we have to supplement; it makes her feel like she cannot provide for our son.
All I can do is support her. This was especially true for the first six weeks. However, Jack recently had a growth spurt and she is now producing significantly more milk. Constantly feeding also is very tough on her back and neck as you are always leaning forward.
Breast feeding also takes much longer than bottle feeding. Jack receives more nutrition from breastfeeding as he is more able to hold down the milk. When we bottle feed he gets the milk much faster. He therefore spits up. My wife would certainly have more free time if she bottle fed, but we know the medical benefits are significant.
Another issue is the physical pain that she feels, which can certainly wear on a person. Long story short is that her nipples hurt and sometimes her left breast hurts. We look at it as a temporary inconvenience that will payoff in the long run. If the sacrificed time is 6 months, and if we are lucky enough to have 50 years with our son Jack—that is just 1% of the time we have with him and he is worth it to her.
7) Are you proud of your wife for breastfeeding?
I couldn’t be prouder of her commitment as a mother and to the current and future health of my son.
8) What do you do to support your wife?
My job of course pales in comparison to hers. I do as much as I can around the house as my wife usually keeps a very clean home, but with less free time it can get away from us. I clean, cook, do dishes, and rub her back as much as I can. I just try to do everything I can to make her comfortable, as she is sacrificing a lot for our future.
9) What would you say to a couple expecting their first child?
On of the coolest things that I have ever witnessed is the connection of a breast feeding mother to a newborn. It is absolutely incredible that when Jack cries from hunger milk starts flowing, working in a similar way as a salivary gland does when we smell food.
Also, the increased production during growth spurts is incredible, and that is just the tip of the iceberg. The antibodies in a mother’s body change to accommodate the immune needs of a baby because they cannot support themselves against invaders.
We are mammals, and breastfeeding is so natural that there is a word to collectively describe a specific group of animals that are scientifically supposed to support their offspring with breast milk from the mammary glands of the mother while the child’s digestive system and immune system grow and mature. These two systems are very interconnected.
10) As a couple, would you do it again?
There is no other choice. Yes. My parents did not know what I know regarding the increased health benefits. And while my brother and sisters are okay, the science makes just too much sense. Our health comes from our DNA and babies grow by cell division. Copy after copy of cellular DNA. The more you can support a child’s good health foundations the better shot you give them to live a long healthy life. If the first cells are weak on a DNA cellular level then the entire body will be built weak and with genetic inefficiency.
11) As a father, do you feel support from others in regards to you and your wife’s decision to breastfeed?
Absolutely. I support my wife 100%, and I can see how hard this is for her. She is amazing and I will support her until she decides that it is time to stop breastfeeding. While it is our joint decision, in the end the boobs are hers.